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Second week homeschooling, getting the groove

It’s only Wednesday but that means half our week is already over, and I can say that today we hit a good groove with home schooling.

CQ took Teo to school, so Miles, Niko and I had the entire morning free. After breakfast of fresh strawberries and bagels with homemade blackberry jam (YUM), Miles read two books. He read The Very Hungry Caterpillar (which was bittersweet since it was a book I read to him many times when he was Niko’s age) and a Grade 3 book on sharks. Then, we worked on an entire chapter of math, on bonds, adding and subtracting. We made our own flashcards and played a game adding to the number 10 in different ways. Miles really enjoyed the flashcard game, which I’ll have to remember to incorporate more. Having fun will make learning easier, I think.

Then, we did some crayon drawing. We are practicing a certain way of drawing, and starting with only the primary colors. Notice the misspellings in his lesson book. I am purposely not correcting them because I want him to get used to sounding out words. His reading level is pretty advanced, reading at least Grade Level 3 now and I feel that the more he reads, the more he’ll get used to spelling words correctly and sounding them out better. Plus, it’s pretty cute to see how he is spelling words!

After drawing, I read him a book on honeybees. A bee will make one ounce of honey in its entire lifetime. Amazing how the worker bee just works and works til it dies of exhaustion. Worker bees are all female, and all they do is work; they make the hives, they feed the babies, they feed the Queen, they clean the hive, they protect the hive (and if they sting, they die); they do not have their own babies. And in the end, after traveling to and fro thousands of times to collect nectar, they die of exhaustion, literally. In contrast, Drones are all males, and all they do is mate with the Queen (and of course, eat). Then, they die. They do not protect, they do not help clean, they do nothing but mate and then die. Maybe they are both selfless but it seems to me the Worker bees got the short end of the stick.

Miles still has not asked me how bees mate.

Then, we spent some time learning how to weave on his mini loom. His idea is to weave a rainbow piece and give it to Baba as a birthday present. Baba has a really big loom and Miles wants to surprise her with something he’ll create.

After weaving, we did some gardening and gathered eggs from the hens, had soup and bread for lunch, and then left the house for the first time all day to get Teo. Now, Miles is in chess class.

All in all, a really fun and productive day!

Our first week homeschooling

We spent Labor Day weekend hanging out with friends, gardening and riding our bikes. Tuesday was Teo’s first day back at Rose K. I was surprised that I got teary eyed saying good bye to him in the morning (since he has been attending “school” for more than a year now). But, he is now four, and this will be his first year at school without Miles. I am not surprised at how easily Teo assimilated himself back at school. He has always been the more independent and naturally happy one. It helps too that his school is just an amazing environment, with wonderful families and a dedicated teacher.

Tuesday was also Miles’ first official homeschool day. He spent the morning after breakfast working on his “Singapore Math” workbook, and then we went to the Berkeley library for a few hours, eventually checking out a gazillion books on bees.
Since deciding to homeschool, I have contemplated many different styles of homeschooling: being enrolled in a formal private homeschool institution, not having a curriculum at all, I even thought of getting my teacher’s credentials so that I could one day teach at an actual school. But in the end, we ended up partnering with FAME (www.famecharter.org), so technically we are public schoolers because FAME is a charter school. But we are free to choose our own curriculum and we get money from the state of California for school supplies and enrichment classes! Miles is now enrolled at Sienna Ranch for outdoor education, carpentry, a clay class and chess. He has also started formally taking fiddle classes with Catherine.

This is the long way of explaining why we have a gazillion books on bees. I decided that the best way to teach Miles is to ask him what he would like to learn, and from there spend a month or more learning all aspects of that subject. So, bees it is. We will learn the history of bees, the science of bees, incorporate bees into our math, draw bees, and live bees for the next 30 days or so. Friends of ours have beehives so it will be fun to visit those later in the year.

We are also spending Fridays going on a hike with other homeschoolers and friends. Today, we spent the entire morning and afternoon doing an Alvarado Wildcat Park loop. There were five adults and twelve kids, 19 months to ten years old! I am ready for a nap, but amazingly the first thing the boys did when we got home was to play outside. They are building “nests” in hopes that a bird family will come move in. I hate to tell them that birds probably won’t use a nest on the ground so close to where Lola, our dog, runs around.

082610, toothless grin

This afternoon, after swim class, Miles bit twice into one of grandma doris’ apples before his left front tooth came out! I didn’t think it’d come out til later. There are such mixed emotions. He’s 6 1/2 now so it’s not like when he was an infant or even one, when every month there seemed to be some kind of milestone (look! he’s walking/talking/smiling/pooped solids!).

I was so happy for him, he had been wiggling that tooth for a while now. But it was also a bittersweet moment, knowing that he is really on his way to boyhood, that my baby, my first, is growing up.

We had bought a toothfairy pillow a few months back – anal that I am – but it somehow ended up in CQ’s car, which is currently in the shop. I didn’t want to put his first tooth in just a plastic baggy under his pillow, so I asked him if I could make a toothfairy pillow and we’d place his tooth in it tomorrow. He is excited to have the fairy visit but he also wanted a pillow. So, finally around midnight, I finished a very simple one, with spare felt lying around. There is an opening in the tooth for his real tooth and a treat. It’s got a crooked smile, but it reminds me of miles’ toothless grin.

2010-08-20 Niko, swinging



2010-08-20 Niko, swinging, originally uploaded by thequales.

This picture just makes me smile. This is Niko, doing one of his favorite things. He loves to go high.

Today, after lunch, he made some grunting noises while standing up and then said, “poo”. We were so excited. CQ did a smell check and sure enough, he needed a diaper change. This was Niko’s first time telling us.

As for Teo, two weeks ago on the 11th (of August), he figured out how to tie his shoelaces! He tried so hard and concentrated for so long until he did it; and then he continued to do it for another 30 minutes. He practices everyday now and gets faster each time. He only turned 4, so I’m pretty proud of the little guy.

2010-08-17 Laurie Lewis’ new album

After listening to Laurie Lewis’ band and Chad playing at the Gravenstein Apple Fair last weekend, Miles decided to buy her new CD with his own money. Laurie and Chad both signed Miles’ first ever music purchase. My first album as a kid was Joan Jett. Different tastes…

Speaking of taste, if you want to taste the BEST apple pie EVER, you need to go to this Apple Fair and head straight to the Pacific Academy School’s booth (usually and conveniently by the entrance) and buy Gloria’s pies, the whole pie. And buy an extra to freeze. We have been going to this fair specifically to buy her pies (although the fun and music can’t be beat either).

2010-08-14 Fiddling at the SF Ferry Building



2010-08-14 SF Ferry Building Jam, originally uploaded by thequales.

Today, we went to the SF Ferry Building so the boys could jam with Catherine and Chad’s other students. This is an annual event they organize and it’s a lot of fun. For two hours, they played and we drew a huge crowd. They made a total of $170! Each kid got ten bucks. Teo and Miles were so proud of themselves, but most importantly, they really had fun.

07262010 Teo’s 4th Birthday



07262010 Teo’s 4th Birthday, originally uploaded by thequales.

Dear Matteo,

Happy, happy birthday!! We love you so very much!!!

Love,
Mama, Papa, Kuya, Niko, Lola, Beryl, Ella, Chiquita and Penny

And yet another “heaven” question

I guess Teo is at that age in which he is really curious about death, heaven, “what-happens-after”. This afternoon, he asked, “Mama, How did Papa go to Heaven?” I was confused by that question and even Miles said, “Teo, Papa is with us. He’s not in heaven.” But then Teo rephrased his question: ” How did Papa take Chunk of Love to heaven?” We were all in the mudroom and I stopped taking my shoes off, knelt down next to him and almost cried. I kissed him and said, “Teo, Papa didn’t need to go to heaven with Chunk of Love. Chunk of Love’s spirit went to heaven and there were many friends and family of his that were helping him with the journey. Cali, Babydog, Smokey, Ashley, Flakey and Gomez and Inang were all calling him. He is happy there now and one day, we’ll all be together.”

I’m so glad he didn’t ask what I meant by “spirit” and where Chunk of Love’s body went. Miles never asked me hard questions like this, even after Gomez’s passing. But, Gomez passed away when Miles was barely 1 so I don’t think he understood any of it. Even so, he hasn’t asked as many questions as Teo has and maybe it’s just his character to keep things more to himself. I do know it really affected Miles to lose some of our chickens and most especially Chunk of Love. And at first, I didn’t think Chunk of Love’s death much affected Matteo, but months after his passing, I now see how much Chunk of Love is on Teo’s mind.

Tonight, I found out from a good friend of mine that her friend passed away. Her friend was pregnant with twins when she found out she had advanced cancer. She gave birth to two healthy babies but weeks later (just a few days ago), she sadly passed away. Her partner, the babies’ other mother, is now caring for their babies. I can’t imagine what the family is going through. I don’t know how she will explain to their babies what happened to their other mom. They are in my thoughts right now.

Conversations before bedtime (back on 4/25/10)

As I was brushing my teeth tonight and the boys were waiting for me to tuck them in, I overheard their conversation:

Teo: Kuya, why are we boys?
Miles: I don’t know, because we are.
Teo: Who made us? Did God make us?
Miles: Yes.
Teo: But when did he make us?
Miles: When he was alive. He made everything.
Teo: Kuya, is God in heaven?
Miles: Yes, but he’s everywhere.
Teo: Is he in our room?
Miles: Yes, he’s everywhere.
Teo: Is God on that chair?
Miles: Yes!
Teo: Is God on the rug?
Miles: Yes, he’s everywhere!
Teo: Is God in my butt butt?
Miles: (laughing) Yes.

Mortality

Putting the kids to bed tonight, the boys were looking for Bobo the monkey and BabyDoll. Something made Teo say to Miles that Bobo is just a stuffed animal. So, Miles retorted that BabyDoll “isn’t real either.”
We had just read the Velveteen Rabbit so I said that neither doll would be real unless the boys loved them enough.
After a bit of silence, Miles said, “Well, I don’t want Bobo to become real….because I don’t want him to die.”
I almost cried at the simplicity yet the profoundness of what he had said. At the age of six, having seen his chickens and beloved Chunk of Love die, he has already figured out the beauty and the cruelty of love. But just like a 6 year old, he bounced back and jumped into bed, tucked in Lola under his blanket and kissed me goodnight.